One of the biggest mistakes rookie coaches make is coaching their team to the benefit of a single player. Let me explain what I mean. Often times youth coaches get involved with sports so that they can coach their son or daughter’s team.
Frequently their son or daughter is one of the best players on the team but this is not always true. As a coach your responsibility is to the team as a parent your responsibility is to your child. Sometimes these two roles come in conflict. And you don’t want to act like a BossHole by creating a bad environment for your team
Great leaders communicate to everyone that the team is more important than the individual. But they also make each individual teammate feel like they are the most important member of the team.
A parent wants their child to be successful and to have every opportunity to play every minute of every game. The coach has to blend the needs of an individual player with the goals of the overall team. Sometimes what is best for the team is not what is best for an individual player. So consider a couple of different ways of handling the parent-coach to son-daughter relationship.
Don’t Be More of a Parent Than a Coach
If the parent-coach is more a parent than coach than a few things are likely to happen. First of all when selecting members for the team they may not choose players who could outplay their son or daughter even when these players were willing to join the team. And second they may give play time to their son or daughter when it may hurt the performance of their team. If either of these things occur the rest of the players and their parents will recognize what is going on and will begin criticizing the coach.
Once the parent’s and teammates begin criticizing the coach is very difficult to create the environment where the team will be successful.s best for the team is not what is best for an individual player. So consider a couple of different ways of handling the parent-coach to son-daughter relationship.
Coaching is Not the Same as Parenting
If the parent-coach is more of a coach than a parent then a few different things are likely to happen. First of all when selecting members for the team they will choose the best players they can find and then let those players compete for the starting positions. Not only will this make their team more likely to perform better but it will communicate to the team that effort and performance are more important than family relationship.
Secondly their son or daughter will realize that their ability to earn playtime is based on merit not relationship. Therefore they will be much more likely to develop the work habits and skills necessary to succeed. In addition all the players and parents will understand that their child is being treated no differently than the coach’s child. This will go a long way to creating the environment in which a team can thrive.
In the working world this same dynamic plays out for any workplace team. If the leader of the team does not create the environment in which everybody feels they are treated fairly, the team will not thrive.
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